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“Open when…” letters for moving out

Their first place comes with a first paycheck, a first rent check and a first thing that breaks with nobody down the hall to fix it. These letters are for those firsts, and for the quiet nights in between.

Each idea comes with a starter letter. The parts in [brackets] are where your own memories go.

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Your own place

Open when it’s your first night in your own place

Welcome home! Your very own place. 🔑 It might feel quiet tonight, and that’s okay. Order something good, make the bed, and put one thing on the wall that makes it feel like yours. We remember our first place: [a story about your first apartment]. Yours is already better.

Gift card idea: DoorDash.

Open when you start your new job

First day! Be a little early, ask lots of questions, and learn people’s names (write them down, nobody will know). The best advice I got starting out: [your best work advice]. We are so proud of you. Call us tonight and tell us everything.

Gift card idea: Starbucks.

Open when you get your first real paycheck

Your first real paycheck! 💵 Spend a little on something fun. Then: [your money advice, like “save some before you spend any”]. You earned every cent. We’re proud of you.

Open when money is tight this month

Rent, bills, groceries… the first year on your own is expensive. Everyone has a month like this. A few things that help: [your budgeting tips]. If you’re really stuck, call us. No lecture, promise.

Open when something breaks in your apartment

Don’t panic! First, take photos. Then email your landlord, in writing, so there’s a record. For the small stuff: [your fix-it tips, like where the water shut-off is or how to plunge a toilet]. And you can always FaceTime us. We’ll walk you through it.

Link idea: a how-to video.

Open when you had a bad day at work

Some work days are just rough. It happens to everyone, even people who love their jobs. When I was starting out, [a work story of your own]. Leave work at work tonight. Tomorrow is a fresh start.

Open when you’re having people over for the first time

Hosting! Here’s the secret: make one thing you’re good at, buy the rest, and light a candle. [Your go-to easy recipe or hosting trick] Nobody cares if the plates match. They came to see you.

Open when adulting is a lot

Laundry, bills, dentist appointments, car registration… nobody really has it all figured out. Here’s your cheat sheet: [Your practical tips: bills on autopay, the dentist every six months, how to get a stain out] You’re doing better than you think.

Open when it’s tax time

Don’t panic. You’ll need the W-2 from your job, and [any other forms, or who can help]. The deadline is usually April 15. If you’re getting a refund, the sooner you file, the sooner it comes. Call us if you get stuck. We’ve done this a few times.

Open when you’re sick and on your own

Being sick with nobody to bring you soup is the worst. So soup is on us tonight. Rest, fluids, and [the medicine you like]. If it’s bad, the closest urgent care is [nearest urgent care]. Feel better. Call if you need us.

Gift card idea: DoorDash.

Hard days

Open when you’re having a bad day

Some days are just heavy, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. When I had a day like this at your age, [a time you struggled and what got you through]. Go get some fresh air, drink some water, and remember: tomorrow is a brand new page.

Open when you’re stressed out

Deep breath. In for four, hold for four, out for four. You have handled hard things before, like [a hard thing they got through]. You can handle this too, one small piece at a time. Nothing is worth losing sleep over. We love you no matter what.

Open when you feel lonely

Everyone feels lonely sometimes, even surrounded by people. Especially in a brand new place. You are such a good friend: [something kind they did for someone]. The right people will find you. In the meantime, call us. We always want to hear your voice.

Open when you can’t sleep

Put the phone down after this (okay, after this letter 😉). Remember when you were little and [a bedtime memory]? Close your eyes and picture it. Sleep tight. We’re thinking of you.

Link idea: a sleepy playlist.

Open when you’re nervous about something big

Butterflies mean you care. That’s a good thing. Whatever it is, you’ve prepared more than you think. Remember [a time they were nervous and crushed it]? Go get ’em. We’re cheering from here.

Open when your heart is broken

I’m so sorry. This hurts, and it’s allowed to hurt. Here is what I know: you are lovable, you are worth it, and you won’t feel like this forever. Eat something good, watch something silly, and call us if you want to talk (or not talk).

Gift card idea: Insomnia Cookies.

Open when you really need to talk

Call us. Any time, day or night. We mean it: 3 a.m. is fine. [Your phone numbers] There is nothing you could tell us that would make us love you less.

Open when you need a sober driver

If you’ve been drinking, or whoever was going to drive has, don’t get in that car. Call us, any hour: [your phone numbers]. We’ll come get you or send a ride. No questions tonight and no lecture tomorrow, we promise. We’re just glad you called. There’s a ride in this envelope too, so getting home never depends on money. Getting home safe is always the right call.

Gift card idea: Uber.

Family & home

Open when you miss home

Missing home means you have a home worth missing. That’s a lucky thing. Right now [what’s happening at home: the dog asleep on your bed, Dad burning dinner]. Your room is exactly how you left it. Well, mostly. Come home soon.

Open when you miss your brother

He misses you too (even if he won’t admit it). Remember [a favorite memory of the two of them]? Text him something ridiculous. He’ll pretend to be annoyed.

Open when you miss your sister

She asks about you all the time. Remember [a favorite memory of the two of them]? Give her a call. It’ll make her whole week.

Open when you miss the dog

[Dog’s name] still waits by the door at [the time they used to get home]. Here are some photos so you can see that face. The belly rubs and treats are being saved up for when you’re home.

Open when you want to see our faces

Here we are! Hope this makes you smile. [A caption or memory for the photos] We love you to the moon and back.

Open when you miss home cooking

Here is how to make [the family recipe], just like at home: [Ingredients and steps] It won’t taste quite the same in a dorm kitchen, but it’ll be close.

Food & money

Open when you need groceries

Fridge looking empty? Time to restock. This one’s for real food: breakfast, fruit, snacks for late nights, and maybe even a vegetable. 🥦 Don’t forget [a go-to snack or meal they love]. Stock up, and share with your roommate (or don’t).

Open when you need gas

Running on empty? This one’s on us. ⛽ Fill it up, and while you’re there: check the tire pressure, keep a phone charger in the car, and text us when you get where you’re going. [A road trip memory, or your best car advice]

Gift card idea: Shell.

Open when you’re totally broke

Ah, the classic college experience. 😄 Here’s a little something to get you through. Spend it on something you need (or really, really want).

Gift card idea: Visa.

School

Open when you need motivation

Remember why you started: [their goal or dream]. You don’t have to feel motivated to begin. Just do the first five minutes. We believe in you, always.

Big & little moments

Open when it’s your birthday

Happy birthday! The day you were born, [a memory from that day]. We’re sorry we can’t be there to embarrass you with a song. Consider yourself sung to. 🎶 Have the best day.

Gift card idea: Amazon.

Open when you need a laugh

Remember the time [a funny family story]? We still laugh about it.

Link idea: a funny family video.

Open when it’s the first snow

Snow day! Go outside, catch a snowflake, and send us a picture. Then get a hot chocolate. 🔥

Gift card idea: Starbucks.

Open when you made a new friend

We love that for you! Tell us everything. Take them out for something, our treat.

Gift card idea: Chick-fil-A.

Open when you had a great day

Ahh, we love to hear it! Write down what made today great so you can remember it. And call us, we want details.

Open when you can’t come home for a holiday

We’ll set a place for you anyway (in spirit). This year we’re [your holiday plans]. We’ll FaceTime you in for [a family tradition]. You are with us, wherever you are.

Open when you’re heading abroad

Look at you, going global! 🌍 Before you go, run through this list: ☐ Passport (good for 6 months past your return date), and a visa if you need one ☐ A photo of your passport on your phone, and a paper copy packed separately ☐ Your health insurance card, and prescriptions in their original bottles ☐ A card with no foreign transaction fees, and tell your bank you’re traveling ☐ A little local cash for when you land ☐ A phone plan or eSIM that works there ☐ A power adapter (and a portable charger) ☐ Sign up for STEP at step.state.gov, so the U.S. embassy can reach you in an emergency ☐ [Your program’s emergency contact, and the address where you’re staying] Text us when you land. Have the adventure of a lifetime, and come home with stories.

Open when you need advice

The best advice I ever got: [a piece of advice that stuck with you]. You already know more than you think. Trust your gut, and when in doubt, call us.

Open when you need to know we’re proud of you

We are so proud of you. Not for any grade or accomplishment, just for who you are. One of my favorite things about you is [something you love about them]. Never forget it.

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